Some people have been searching for ‘The One’ for as long as they can remember. Some have even gone to the extent of describing their eye color, profession, height, geographical location, spirituality, sense of humor and passion. But sometimes reality just sits and laughs. When you’re able to marry ‘The One’ with reality, then your chances of finding him or her will greatly increase.
‘The One’ exits. Yes! It’s true. But first, let’s look at these core value which go a long way to help us to determine who should be tagged ‘The One’
1. WHAT ARE YOUR VALUES
‘Your self-worth is one of your greatest assets’, I can say we all have guideposts to help us move through life and create a path we can be proud of and happy about. Consider which values are non-negotiable and which are flexible.
Looking at the path of religion, if you and your date have conflicting religious or political believes, you might face additional challenges. It doesn't mean the relationship won't work, yet it's definitely something to consider.
2. YOUR SENSE OF HUMOR
‘Anybody with a good sense of humor can fit in anywhere’. - Jeff James. A good sense of humor is one of the more diverse traits humanity has. People find different things funny and they bring up humor at all kinds of times. A good sense of humor can reflect how a person lives her or his life, how they treat others and themselves and what they value, so pay attention to your partner's sense of humor and to how she or he responds to yours
3. YOUR WAY OF EXPRESSING LOVE
Humans generally like to be known. Some people like to talk and others like to show. Some view expressing love as buying each other elaborate gifts while others prefer simple, daily gestures. Some are romantic and others mix love with cynicism. Some goof around all the time and others need serious moments. In any case, they are showing their affection in diverse ways.
Think of how you'd like to express your love for your partner and how you'd like your partner to express love for you. You could teach each other how to treat you, but don't go into a relationship hoping you'll change them down the line.
‘Relationship is all about thinking of how best to make the other party happy’. – Jeff James
4. LAY DOWN YOUR GOALS AND DREAMS
Being in a relationship is a very serious thing, no matter the angle you’re coming from. No matter what you want to do, you have to lay them down on black and white. Whether it’s about having kids, deciding on where to live or how much money you're comfortable having. Everything MUST be stated. Are you career-driven and your partner is not? Do you love the thrill of entrepreneurship while your partner needs the security of a regular job? Are you all about self-growth and they don't deal well with change? Do you want to travel the world and live a nomadic lifestyle and your partner prefers settling back home?
Relationship is all about compromise. You don't need to have identical goals and dreams for the relationship to last – and compromise is part of any relationship – yet consider in advance what you're willing to compromise and what you can't live without. Your compromise should be at equilibrium with your partner’s, if not value will be disrespected and abused.
5. YOUR RELATIONSHIPS WITH YOURSELVES
‘Relationship is also about investments’. – Jeff James. How much you love yourself and invest in your own life is how much you'll be truly emotionally available to love another. Don't look to be someone's better half, but your own full person building a richer life with another full person.
Create a healthy relationship with your body, your mind and your soul, and choose someone who's creating a healthy relationship with her or himself. That's ingredient number one for a healthy relationship with each other. Putting value on yourself makes your partner value you the more.
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