DID I DO THE RIGHT THING?

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My name is Peter from Akwa Ibom state. Please I really need your help on this issue. I broke up with a girl I really love. I didn’t want to but I just had to. It all started when I met a lady on BBM and we got talking. We started talking intimate and we were flowing. But one day I got to know that one girl I liked was her daughter. I didn’t want anything to destroy our relationship so I deleted and blocked her from my BBM.

As I got along with the daughter, I loved her each day. And I made it clear that she was the one I wanted to spend the rest of my life with. But I was always very uncomfortable when she would mention to me about meeting her mom. I couldn’t tell my girl because I had two fears. One was that I didn’t know what to expect and I was afraid of the outcome. Secondly, I didn’t want to destroy the relationship she had with the mother. Within me I always saw her as my mother-in-law and my main aim was to get married to her daughter. But I knew that if I went on with the relationship and got more serious, I would hurt her more in the future. So I broke up with her.

It’s been more than a year now. But the last time we met, I had to tell her about it and it didn’t go down well. I still love this girl. Was breaking up with her a wise move? Should I forget about her and move on? Because I get the feeling that she has.What should I do? Thanks

QUALITIES WOMEN LOVE AND LOOK FORWARD TO IN MEN

It's not just about being tall, dark and handsome. There are certain 'manly' qualities about guys that can make any woman go weak in her knees. And while you may think it's all about the looks, guess what? There's more. It's a potent mix of both, physical attributes and of course, that all important emotional touch. Here, we tell you about seven points you need to heed.


1. YOUR SENSE OF STYLE

Women would rather have you splurging on them than on obscenely priced designer wear. So, even if it's a typical roadside purchase that you swear by, make sure you adopt a certain classy and stylized look and maintain it. Women don't really expect you to be a picture copy of a Pierce Brosnan or a David Beckham, but trying to imitate their style will surely up your popularity quotient. Keep yourself updated on the latest trends. Also, just as you have your reservations against the 'nun-type' dressers; women too hesitate when it comes to the boring office type dresser.

2. WELL GROOMED

Yes, we said tall but the reality is that height is really not as important a factor as how you present yourself. Just like guys like a women who is well turned out, women too dig guys who ensure that they are perfectly groomed. Some women believe that if you are careful enough to take care of yourself, they can trust you to take care of them. So, remember guys, sloppy dressing, uncombed hair, dirty nails, smelly socks, stained shirts or jeans and the likes are an absolute no-no when you are trying to make that all important impression on someone from the opposite sex.

3. LAUGH IT OUT

One of the most important trait that woman dig is a sense of humor. Women have more than enough problems to deal with and don't really need the company of another equally depressed soul. Yes, you have your bad days, but it does go a long way if you have a good sense of humor, and clean humor at that. Beware, taking a dig at others and constantly putting others down do not really spell fun for women. And we can't tell you enough how much women love people who can laugh at themselves and their own mistakes.


4. SHOW THEM YOU CARE

Naturally a woman would turn to the person that cares for he the most. Women need to be constantly reassured that they are loved and cared for. Acts like holding their hand while walking down the road, watching the sunset, an occasional hug and peck on the cheeks and making sure that they cross the road safely mean that you are proud to be seen with them and care for them. Remember, not displaying your affection openly is a sign that you are ashamed of who you are with. However, beware of being crass while displaying youaffections.


5. A SEXY SMILE/WINK

Please if you don’t know how to smile, learn how to. Ladies love it when you smile at them, adding a wink to it. Believe me when I tell you that if you look at them and smile like that, it does make them feel very special, like they are one in a million.


6. BE CALM

Woman are known to be harrowed and frenzied. Yes, they do tend to get hyper very easily and that is the precise reason why you need to be the calming factor in their lives. It really doesn't help if you too get stressed out or fly off the handle at any and every incident. Your sex appeal lies as much in your looks as it does in your attitude - women dig guys with a cool and peaceful attitude, the one who is able to calm them down and reassure them that all is well.

These attributes are good. But there is a very important aspect women neglect when it comes to choosing who to date. Stay with us and find out more.

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THINGS YOU SHOULD NEVER DISCUSS ON A FIRST DATE

The First date determines a lot on how your next dates will be and how your relationship will go. Why? Because first dates serve as the beginning of you of the page with someone. And while there are certain taboo subjects that you know not to discuss on a date—like your unrelenting constipation—there are less obvious topics that should be off limits, too. Try as much as possible never to bring these topic up on your first-date conversation.

YOUR EX

Why do you call them ‘ex’? Because they’re not ‘now’. They are the past. So keep it like that. If you repeatedly bring up your ex on a first date, there's a good chance one of two things will happen: Your date will think you're not entirely over your last relationship, or they'll see you as bitter and defeated by romance. Neither impression will make your date want to get to know you better. Some might even want to take advantage of the fact that you're desperate for someone to fill the gap.

YOUR FAVORITE SEX POSITION

Bringing up such a topic on the first date sends out a lot of signals. That you’re loose and should not be taken serious. And you’re also free for the asking. No matter what sex position youprefer, you shouldn't bring them up on your first date. That's because discussing sex too early on can give your date the impression that you're only interested in sex—or that your preferences are more adventurous or traditional than his. Avoid going there as much as possible.

POLITICS

Why in the world should you even think about it? To me that’s not normal. Don’t even bring it up. The reason is simple: You believe what you believe, and your date believes what they believe. You probably aren't going to change either person's views. Plus, the topic tends to fuel animosity, which can end the date before it really begins. This isn't to say you can't talk about current events or news, but don't reveal just yet that you are president of ‘God knows where’.

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BEFORE YOU START UP WITH THAT RELATIONSHIP

Some people have been searching for ‘The One’ for as long as they can remember. Some have even gone to the extent of describing their eye color, profession, height, geographical location, spirituality, sense of humor and passion. But sometimes reality just sits and laughs. When you’re able to marry ‘The One’ with reality, then your chances of finding him or her will greatly increase.

‘The One’ exits. Yes! It’s true. But first, let’s look at these core value which go a long way to help us to determine who should be tagged ‘The One’

1. WHAT ARE YOUR VALUES

‘Your self-worth is one of your greatest assets’, I can say we all have guideposts to help us move through life and create a path we can be proud of and happy about. Consider which values are non-negotiable and which are flexible.

Looking at the path of religion, if you and your date have conflicting religious or political believes, you might face additional challenges. It doesn't mean the relationship won't work, yet it's definitely something to consider.

2. YOUR SENSE OF HUMOR

‘Anybody with a good sense of humor can fit in anywhere’. - Jeff James. A good sense of humor is one of the more diverse traits humanity has. People find different things funny and they bring up humor at all kinds of times. A good sense of humor can reflect how a person lives her or his life, how they treat others and themselves and what they value, so pay attention to your partner's sense of humor and to how she or he responds to yours

3. YOUR WAY OF EXPRESSING LOVE

Humans generally like to be known. Some people like to talk and others like to show. Some view expressing love as buying each other elaborate gifts while others prefer simple, daily gestures. Some are romantic and others mix love with cynicism. Some goof around all the time and others need serious moments. In any case, they are showing their affection in diverse ways.

Think of how you'd like to express your love for your partner and how you'd like your partner to express love for you. You could teach each other how to treat you, but don't go into a relationship hoping you'll change them down the line.

‘Relationship is all about thinking of how best to make the other party happy’. – Jeff James

4. LAY DOWN YOUR GOALS AND DREAMS

Being in a relationship is a very serious thing, no matter the angle you’re coming from. No matter what you want to do, you have to lay them down on black and white. Whether it’s about having kids, deciding on where to live or how much money you're comfortable having. Everything MUST be stated. Are you career-driven and your partner is not? Do you love the thrill of entrepreneurship while your partner needs the security of a regular job? Are you all about self-growth and they don't deal well with change? Do you want to travel the world and live a nomadic lifestyle and your partner prefers settling back home?

Relationship is all about compromise. You don't need to have identical goals and dreams for the relationship to last – and compromise is part of any relationship – yet consider in advance what you're willing to compromise and what you can't live without. Your compromise should be at equilibrium with your partner’s, if not value will be disrespected and abused.

5. YOUR RELATIONSHIPS WITH YOURSELVES

‘Relationship is also about investments’. – Jeff James. How much you love yourself and invest in your own life is how much you'll be truly emotionally available to love another. Don't look to be someone's better half, but your own full person building a richer life with another full person.

Create a healthy relationship with your body, your mind and your soul, and choose someone who's creating a healthy relationship with her or himself. That's ingredient number one for a healthy relationship with each other. Putting value on yourself makes your partner value you the more.

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